Disciplining, Discipling, and Loving Your Kids – Part 3

LOVINGI’m sure we have all found ourselves shushing our children at some point. Hopefully, we were trying to let them know that it wasn’t the right time for them to be talking or teaching them how to be polite when someone is on the phone. Have you heard anyone say, “Children should be seen and not heard”? Well, that is the opposite of the Bible, where Jesus himself says to let the little children come to me.

Spending time together as a family means that you are seeing and hearing your children. Part one of this series spoke of the importance of disciplining your children. Part two reminds us that we need to disciple our children. Part three is loving your kids and to do that, you need to spend time together.

Proverbs 3:1-6 says, “My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in your heart, for they will prolong your life many years and bring you peace and prosperity. Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

You can’t teach if you aren’t spending time with your kids. You need to be a model for your children. If they see Jesus in action through you, that is going to go a lot further than if you tell them to go read their Bible. PK has done his share of visits to the hospital and he said never on someone’s deathbed have they wished for a better job or more money. People always wanted their family with them.

How do you spend more time with your kids when the reality is the world we live in is so demanding, expensive, and busy. You don’t need more time because you will just fill it with more stuff. You need to make more out of the time you do have. Use your time wisely.

What’s important to us as parents, will be important to our kids.     -PK

I’ve put PK’s quote in all three parts of this series. You need to think of this and remember it when you are frustrated that you are out of time. Let’s face it, things are never going to go the way we planned. If we wait until conditions are perfect, well, we’ll be waiting a long time and life will slip by. PK said someone once told him to, “Enjoy the suck”. Yup, it’s all part of life. How are you going to deal with it and spend time with your kids?

Kids know the difference between a hard worker and ambitious greed. They will respect you for hard work. I mentioned previously that I’ve just finished musical season. The week of the show, I was gone from 7:00 in the morning until 9:30 at night. My kids came to the show and afterwards, my oldest (who isn’t really into shows) told me it was really, really good. Hard work is noticed by kids.

I want to finish with this quote that PK shared. Barbara Bush said it at commencement in 1990 for Wellesley College. It’s a little long, but read to the end and then be sure you go out and live it. Love your kids.

“Cherish your human connections: your relationships with family and friends. For several years, you’ve had impressed upon you the importance to your career of dedication and hard work, and, of course, that’s true. But as important as your obligations as a doctor, lawyer or business leader will be, you are a human being first and those human connections — with spouses, with children, with friends — are the most important investments you will ever make. At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a child, a friend, or a parent. Maybe we should adjust faster, maybe we should adjust slower. But whatever the era, whatever the times, one thing will never change: Fathers and mothers, if you have children — they must come first. You must read to your children, hug your children, and you must love your children. Your success as a family … our success as a society depends not on what happens in the White House, but on what happens inside your house.”


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